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Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Connections between Maxwell and emotional intelligence?
So you've read Maxwell's book on connecting (or a good portion of it at least) and you are starting on the EI book. I'm curious what connections (if any) do you see between Maxwell's principles and the topic of emotional intelligence?
One of my take aways from Maxwells book is having an external focus - being aware of others - it reminds me of the emotional intelligence ability to identify emotions. Also, I remember Maxwell talking about how communication requires energy. Generating an emotion appropriate to a situation would require energy.
I think one of Maxwell’s main EI points was that you have to be able to read people in order to understand what their current emotional status is and then adjust your response accordingly. Only by doing this can you connect with them in the most effective way. One example that I remember was Maxwell's ability to tell when an audience is bored, tired, irritable, etc. and then adjusting the message to what is appropriate for the audience. If you transfer this talent to one on one or small group situations, I think you will be able to communicate and connect better.
I also really liked how Caruso and Salovey including that to understand another's feelings we must first be able to understand our own. On page 83 they state, "It is a rare person whose skills in understanding others do not begin with understanding oneself." I really like this statement. It reminds me to actually "deal" with the emotion rather than just shutting it off.
One of my take aways from Maxwells book is having an external focus - being aware of others - it reminds me of the emotional intelligence ability to identify emotions. Also, I remember Maxwell talking about how communication requires energy. Generating an emotion appropriate to a situation would require energy.
ReplyDeleteI think one of Maxwell’s main EI points was that you have to be able to read people in order to understand what their current emotional status is and then adjust your response accordingly. Only by doing this can you connect with them in the most effective way. One example that I remember was Maxwell's ability to tell when an audience is bored, tired, irritable, etc. and then adjusting the message to what is appropriate for the audience. If you transfer this talent to one on one or small group situations, I think you will be able to communicate and connect better.
ReplyDeleteI also really liked how Caruso and Salovey including that to understand another's feelings we must first be able to understand our own. On page 83 they state, "It is a rare person whose skills in understanding others do not begin with understanding oneself." I really like this statement. It reminds me to actually "deal" with the emotion rather than just shutting it off.
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